SEXUALITY AND AGING
Keeping the passion and flame alive. Sexual feelings don’t disappear as you age.
Communication: Talk to your partner, set some time aside to be sensual and sexual together. Share your thoughts about lovemaking with your partner. Help your partner understand what you want. Be honest about what your experiencing physically and emotionally.
Sexual health and Safe Sex: Know how to practice safe sex. If you are having sex with new or different partners, always use a condom. Talk to your doctor about how to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections.. Test with your partner for HIV and other STIs, if you’ve tested negative and monogamous you probably don’t need to worry about protection. Until you know for sure, use a condom when you have sex.
Aging and men’s sexual health: Testosterone plays a key role in a man’s sexual experience. Testosterone levels peak in the late teens and then decline. Most men notice a change in their sexual response by age 60 to 65. The penis may take longer to become erect, and erections may not be as firm. It takes longer to reach full arousal and have an ejaculatory experience. As a man ages erectile dysfunction also becomes more common. Medications are available for erectile dysfunction, speak to your doctor.
Aging and women’s sexual health: As women reach menopause, their estrogen levels decreases, this leads to vaginal dryness, thinning of the vaginal walls, slower sexual arousal. Women may experience emotional changes as well. Some women might enjoy sex more not having to worry about pregnancy.
Medical conditions in sexual health: any condition that affects your general health and well-being may also affect your sexual health, illnesses that involve your heart, blood pressure, diabetes, hormonal problems, depression and anxiety—as well as the medications used to treat these illnesses—can be a challenge to keeping sexually active. Also, surgical procedures that affect your pelvis and your nervous system can affect your sexual response. Your body is resilient, give it some to heal and you can regain your sexual responsiveness. Speak to your doctor.
Medications and sexual health: some medications can inhibit your sexual response, including your desire for sex or your ability to become aroused or have an orgasm. Each person might have a different reaction to medications. Sometimes varying the activity you engage in or how you approach it may help. If you’re having these medication side effects speak to your doctor.
When one partner becomes ill: When ill, sexuality may take a back seat before the other health needs. Pain, discomfort, medications or worry can overshadow sexual desire. Talk to your partner about other ways to be close during that time. If you are the caregiver, the demands of caring for your partner might take a toll on your sexual desire. Try to set aside your role as a caregiver from time to time and be a partner instead – take time to also relax and feel nurtured by your partner.
Dealing with differences in desire: These differences are common in couples of all ages. Couple can become stuck in a pattern where one person initiates contact while the other might avoid it. If you mainly avoid sex, consider taking charge. If you usually take charge, talk to your partner about what you need.
Look forward not back: Many couples want to know how to get back the sexual arousal and activity levels they experienced in their 20s, 30s and early 40s. Instead, find ways to optimize your body’s sexual response for sexual experiences now. Ask yourself what is satisfying and mutually acceptable. Speak to your doctor.